Life is not fair- just when you think you’ve figured everything out, it’ll throw another curveball at you. Whenever you feel helpless, remember that you are always in control of your own attitude. You can loathe in self pity and scream WHY ME or you can make the most of a terrible situation.
Let’s say you worked hard for months and you finally land an interview with a prospective client who cancels on you at the last minute. You can either complain, hold a grudge, and maybe give up or you can say, now I have more time to prepare for this meeting. Or let’s say you spill coffee all over your white rug. Well, now you can plan a shopping date with your best friend and find a new rug that works even better for the space! By making that choice to remain positive during hard times, you are in control of whether your life moves in a positive direction or a negative one.
Your attitude should not depend on what is happening to or around you. It should not be situational. You can never be in control of every little thing that life throws at you but the one thing you always have control over is your attitude and how you repond to different situations and circumstances. The next time something completely unplanned happens to you, remind yourself that you are in control. You can go into a downward spiral or you can take out your phone and start writing down all of the reasons why this is the best thing that could have happened to you.
When something doesn’t go your way, become aware of your thoughts and whisk any negative ones away before they have the chance to turn into self defeating emotions like pity, defeat, or hopelessness. Negative thoughts trick you into believing that your entire life is far worse than it actually is. How many times has one small negative thought turned into a mental snowball and ended with you believing that your entire life is falling apart. It is important to be aware of your thoughts and not let the negative ones build a home in your mind. Click here to read my article on ta-da! and gratitude lists which will help you develop positive thinking.
You can always find a silver lining if you look for it.
“Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one” – Hans Selye.