I’m going to be honest- I’ve always thought bridesmaid proposals were a little cringy and unnecessary. Don’t get me wrong, I knew I wanted to plan something for my bridesmaids when the time came but I still laughed a little at them! Then I started planning my own wedding and I realized how much help my family and friends were to me in the planning process. Anytime I had a question or needed help, one of them was there for me. When we hosted our engagement party last year, they were there to help me plan it and even help clean up the massive mess afterwards (while wearing sarees and lenghas)! So even though I still laugh a little at the idea of a bridesmaid proposal, i definitely think that every bride should take some time away from planning the big day to put together something special and memorable to thank and appreciate the people that are truly there for them.
Today I am sharing my tips to help you plan the perfect one!
1. Set a budget and stick to it!
Buying gifts for all of your bridesmaids can add up. I found myself wanting to buy everything cute I saw! So I recommend setting a budget first before you go shopping rather than waiting until your next credit card statement to see the damage.
You don’t have to put together something ridiculously expensive! If I was a bridesmaid, I would be happy to get a hand written note with my favourite chocolate bar or a hand picked bouquet from their garden! It’s the thought that counts, not the price tag! So set your budget and then figure out how you can put together something special within it.
2. Make it personal
Your proposal will be so much more special if you give it a personal touch. You can write a note in a card or put a Polaroid picture of you both inside the gift.
3. You don’t have to fill a box with small gifts!
When I started planning my bridesmaid proposal, all I found online were pictures and pictures of boxes filled with tons of smaller products. If that’s what you want to do, you definitely can, but if you don’t want to then you don’t have to!
I wanted to buy a gift that my bridesmaids will be able to keep and get use out of for a long while. So I searched for months for a beautiful floral fabric to make robes from- I knew we could all wear it while we got ready on the wedding date and that meant it would make for some cute getting ready photos! I knew they would also be able to use it after the wedding as well! You can purchase ready made robes for your bridesmaids from our shop or custom order floral robes in your wedding colours by emailing us!
I also found floral purses/pounches that perfectly matched the robes so I decided to buy them and place the robes in there. I know my bridesmaids would be able to use the purses the next time they travel or go on an overnight trip.
My gifts didn’t look like the typical bridesmaid proposal boxes that I found online and it wasn’t overflowing with a bunch of goodies but I put together a gift that I loved and thought was super cute and practical!
You don’t have to do what you see everyone else doing. Whats important is that you thank and appreciate your bridesmaids. How you choose to do that is completely up to you.
4. Organize a get together
Don’t just drop off the gifts or meet with each bridesmaid individually. This is the perfect excuse to get them all together especially if your bridesmaids don’t know each other too well. This is also a great time to discuss wedding logistics. For example, I had to ask my bridesmaids to organize a date to get together and purchase their accessories for the bridesmaid dresses.
As a bride, you likely have a ton of items on your to-do list and it’s ok to ask your friends and family to help you with a few of them. Don’t overwhelm them or give them more than they can handle but remember that it’s ok to ask for help!
I also used the get together I organized as an opportunity to discuss the itinerary for the morning of- where everyone is getting ready, what time we all need to meet, who can car pool with who etc…
A few days prior to the get together, make a list of everything you need to discuss with your bridesmaids and write down the tasks you need help with. When you are trying to organize a wedding with a group of people over text messages and phone calls, things can get confusing so use this get together as an opportunity to discuss and make decisions about things that involve them while you are all in one room.
5. It’s not just about your bridesmaids!
Include all of the girls who have been there for you and whom you want to thank and appreciate. My mum and sister-in-law have definitely been there for me every step of this fun journey, helping me the entire way through from the moment I got engaged. I wouldn’t have dreamt of putting all of this together and not having them there. If including all the girls you want to thank doesn’t fit your budget then I think you should definitely spend less on each of the gifts and include them all! It’s really not about the gift but about the gesture and the thought.
6. Just have fun!
The best part of my day was just seeing my friends and family! I don’t see them as often as I’d like so I loved just chatting with them and having a girls night. As you get older none of you are going to remember the gifts you gave one another over the years so remember the most important aspect of the day is to ensure you and all of your bridesmaids have a fun time and create a sweet memory that you can all look back on!